Abstractions and a Loveseat Love Affair

"Love will be the death of me, love is so fickle....It starts with a flood and ends with a trickle."
-Regina Spektor, Bartender

Sleepless Nights: Yangyang Pan

A crush is just as it sounds.  Getting its name from how you normally feel after it’s over…Crushed. Like in high school, when you spot him, your heart jumps into your stomach and your ligaments start to tingle.  You hope he doesn’t catch how red your face is.  He walks towards you, and you pretend not to notice. You start rummaging through your bag, or looking at your phone as though you have a “very important text.”  Oh my gosh! Kelly did what with who whom?!?! Be sure your facial expression makes you look interesting and sexy at the same time. Look up just as he is about to walk by, to be sure he is looking at you, smile playfully and say…..

"Oh no, it’s you again."

Yep……. That should pretty much confuse him enough, so he doesn’t know whether or not you like him, of course.  

Either that or he will think you are a total freak.  Seriously though, why would you want him to know that you are interested in him? Why would you want him to know for sure that you think he is intelligent, and funny, and reminds you (a little bit) of James Dean? Swoon

Abstract Landscape: Yangyang Pan, Utopian Vases, Charade Heart Vase: Jonathan Adler, Wall Clock: West Elm, 

Hourglass: Orange and Pear,  Bestow Hand Hook: Horne, SM-2 Pendant: GUBI

No, him knowing would be a disaster. I mean…He might actually feel the same way about you. Then what? Where can it go after that? Dinner, Movies, Dating? No, all that jazz is just way too messy.  Plus, like I said before, crushes leave you heart broken, and alone.  Not until you learn to take these feelings at face value will you be able to enjoy them for what they really are.

A crush should be simple, it should be fun, and it shouldn’t get messy. Why ruin a good thing with emotions and seriousness?  After all, you know in your heart that it can’t go anywhere.  You know this because, if you thought otherwise, letting him know how you felt wouldn’t be such a problem.

“So how should you look at this situation instead?” I’m glad you asked! I will give you my expert opinion...... Smile, laugh, be happy, and most importantly be yourself.  Enjoy and be thankful for every moment that you get to share with this other person.

Then, when it’s over, you won’t be crushed. Instead you will be thankful for the time you had. You can look back and smile because the good memories provide a much better feeling than the messiness.

Honestly, I think we should look at all relationships like this. Then the planet would be a much better place; a little less blame, bitterness and resentment.

Thank you too all my crushes, past present and future, for breaking my heart. And to the one who helped me come to this realization...”Chairs” to you.

Louisa Settee: Anthropologie

 Did you see what I did there?!?!?  I’m awesome.